Why are we allowing adultery and no fault divorce if we are so concerned about family stability and children?

Historically, the family is the foundation of society; and, where the government is allowing or directly undermining the structure and strength of families through laws and permissiveness of immorality, society has continued to degrade, crimes rise, sexual deviance and disease prosper, and juvenile delinquency/juvenile crime and unwed pregnancy skyrockets. The Roman Empire is a perfect example of this and the united states is well down the same path. There is all this talk about strengthening families, wanting to put a stop to the 250%+ rise in juvenile crimes/social problems, and provide good, stable homes for our children. Knowing personally the harm adultery causes and the emotional instability of a homosexual or bisexual household, seeing so many families destroyed and the kids go to the one who broke the vows, the family/domestic courts idea of "best interests of the child" is a cruel joke. If we are truly so concerned about the family unit, about children having a stable home with both parents having equal rights to the child barring actual abuse, about the wedding vows having actual meaning and being actually binding, why are we not making sure that the Clean Hands Doctrine and the rule of law that states that no one has the right to benefit from their own wrong is applied in the case of divorce? Why are we not eliminating "no fault" divorce so that the wrongdoer rightfully loses all claim to custody or property in divorce and making sure that adulterers are punished? Why are we not making sure that a judge realizes that it is his or her duty to find out whose fault it is that a child's life is getting torn asunder? Most assuredly it is someone's fault in the marriage that he or she is so selfish and irresponsible that they are not willing to do what it takes to provide an intact, happy, loving home for the kids? There is no "no fault" in a divorce where children are involved. Why are we allowing these stupid little sluts that get pregnant out of wedlock or in order to entrap and extort money from a man and demand full Rights to their reproductive decisions along with full Rights to the "product" of their womb under the pretense of "I don't need a man! My child doesn't need a dad!" to get welfare and/or suck the man dry for 18+ years? Why are we not helping those who are suffering treatable illness but aren't pregnant and don't want to give birth to a bastard get medical attention so that they can be productive members of society, yet telling any female of child bearing age in the same predicament that if she were pregnant she could get help? Isn't that only encouraging more sexual immorality/promiscuity, the chance for more sexual disease to be spread, more unwed pregnancy, more welfare recipients, more unsuspecting men getting entrapped into the involuntary servitude and slavery that is child support, and more fatherless children that scientifically have higher chances of repeating the cycle or being criminals into existence? Full rights means full responsibility - not making someone else pay for what you own or what you do. This is the fact that should be pushed in law and life. I should not have to pay for your dog, your dog's vet bills, or the lawsuit if your dog bites someone. Why are we not putting a stop to this kind of garbage in our legislature and judiciary to ensure moral, socially responsible, strong families with happy children...and, should a divorce suit occur, that it is found out who is the abuser, adulterer, or immature, irresponsible twinkie so that the child goes to the good parent? FYI, I am an adult female who came from a home where Dad was an abusive, adulterous creep; victim of the divorce industry that has made my family suffer because my husband's ex was a cheating slut; seen several friends suffer because their ex-wives left them for another yet got custody of the kids; and have done years of study on this. No politician or judge has given me good answer to my questions, maybe some of you can.